Beginners Guide to Signs From Deceased Loved Ones

One of the most comforting things about mediumship is knowing that our loved ones who have passed are still around us. Many people come to me hoping for a sign. Something small that tells them their mother, father, child, or partner is okay and still watching over them.

The good news is that signs are real, and they happen more often than you might think. In this beginner’s guide, I’m going to show you how to recognize those loving messages, what the most common signs are, and how you can gently invite contact without forcing it.

Why Our Loved Ones Send Signs

When someone we love crosses over, they often want us to know three things:

  • They are okay.
  • They are still with us and have an overview of our lives.
  • They still love us.
Signs are their way of saying “I’m here” without overwhelming us. They respect our free will and usually keep the messages gentle and personal.

The Most Common Signs From Deceased Loved Ones

Here are some of the signs people receive most often:

  • Their favorite song suddenly playing at the perfect moment
  • Smelling their perfume, cigar smoke, or favorite food when no one is around
  • Finding feathers, coins, or other small objects in unexpected places
  • Vivid dreams that feel more like visits than regular dreams
  • Seeing repeating numbers (especially their birthdate or age)
  • A warm, loving feeling when you think about them
  • Animals behaving strangely (like the dog in one of my stories who started walking restlessly from room to room after her owner passed)
The key is that the sign is usually something very personal, something only you and your loved one would understand.

Real-Life Example: The Butterfly Poem

Edward came for a reading hoping to hear from his late mother. She came through loud and clear and asked him to find the dark-blue journal and read the poem in the middle.

After the session, Edward went straight to his mother’s notebooks, which he had never opened before. There were two dark-blue journals. He opened the second one in the middle, and his eyes immediately fell on a poem she had written about him, comparing his life journey to that of a butterfly, from baby to toddler, teenager, and finally the beautiful man he had become.

Before she passed, they had agreed that a butterfly would be her sign to let him know there really is life after death. More than a year had gone by without seeing one, and he had started to feel disappointed.

That poem was her beautiful, personal sign, one he never expected. He framed it and gave it a special place in his home, a lasting reminder that his mother is still with him.

Read more real medium readings behind the scenes.

How to Invite Gentle Contact

You don’t have to beg or force anything. Here are simple, respectful ways to invite signs:

  • Choose a personal sign together (even after they have passed) — say it out loud or in your mind: “Mom, if you’re around, please show me a white feather as a sign.”
  • Ask once and then let go — trust that they heard you.
  • Stay open and notice — the signs are often small and perfectly timed.
You can read more practical tips on my page Signs From Deceased Loved Ones.

Common Questions About Signs

  • What if I don’t see any signs?
  • Can I ask for a specific sign?
  • What if I think I’m imagining it?
I answer all of these honestly in the full guide.

Your Next Steps

Start small. Choose one sign and ask for it gently. Then pay attention in the coming days. The more you notice and say thank you, the stronger the connection often becomes.

Ready to go deeper?

If you want personal confirmation or messages from your loved ones, you can book a reading with one of my trusted team members or me.

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Thank you for being here. Your loved ones are closer than you think; they’re just waiting for you to notice their loving signs.

With love,

Barbara
Trance Medium & Founder of Barbara’s Psychic Mediums

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